{"id":620,"date":"2021-05-21T14:58:50","date_gmt":"2021-05-21T14:58:50","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/angelobiblestudy.com\/?page_id=620"},"modified":"2021-05-21T15:02:57","modified_gmt":"2021-05-21T15:02:57","slug":"the-consequences-of-divorce-and-remarriage","status":"publish","type":"page","link":"https:\/\/angelobiblestudy.com\/?page_id=620","title":{"rendered":"The Consequences of Divorce and Remarriage"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t
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Christians increasingly find themselves faced with the dilemma of dealing with individuals (usually non-Christian) who divorce and remarry any number of times for any number of reasons, and who come wishing to become part of the local church. The tendency is to permit the couple to remain in the marriage relationship they are in when they become Christians\u2014though the marriage was contracted in violation of Matthew 19:9. This position usually cloaks itself in feigned compassion for the couple when, more often than not, members simply lack the spiritual courage to press the biblical position. One argument posed in defense of this stance is the notion that if the couple cannot continue their marriage after baptism, then baptism did not really cleanse them and adultery becomes the \u201cunpardonable sin.\u201d Several points which show the error of this position are in order:<\/p>

First, much is accomplished at the point of biblical baptism, but baptism was never designed to change a sinful practice into an acceptable one, or to transform a sinful relationship into a righteous one. Prostitutes, homosexuals, polygamists, bisexuals, bigamists, and adulterers must sever their relationships.<\/p>

Second, the biblical doctrine of forgiveness must not be confused with the equally biblical doctrine of the consequences of sin. Being forgiven never implies that all of the\u00a0consequences<\/strong>\u00a0of sin will be erased. Past sin may be blotted out, but the consequences of past sin generally remain. For example:<\/p>

  1. Syphilis of the brain is a lasting consequence of a promiscuous lifestyle;<\/li>
  2. Permanent removal from the garden was a lasting penalty and consequence of the sin of Adam and Eve (Genesis 3);<\/li>
  3. Being banned from Canaan was a lasting penalty of Moses\u2019 sin (Deuteronomy 32:51-52), though he could be forgiven and one day be in heaven (Revelation 15:3);<\/li>
  4. God pardoned the murmurers (Numbers 14:20)\u2014but the negative effects of their sin were lasting and disastrous (Numbers 14:29-35);<\/li>
  5. Esau\u2019s mistake of selling his inheritance rights could not be rectified\u2014\u201cthough he sought it diligently with tears\u201d (Hebrews 12:17).<\/li><\/ol>

    This biblical principle simply does not square with the notion that if anyone has to break up a marriage, too much is expected of them and forgiveness is not really what it\u2019s \u201ccracked up\u201d to be. If biblical history teaches us anything, it teaches us that people cannot sin and then expect to have things the way they were before. More often than not, much suffering comes upon those who violate God\u2019s will, even though they may be forgiven and have the hope of heaven.<\/p>

    So it is with marriage. People may reject God\u2019s laws of marriage and fly in the face of His will. They may then be forgiven, but they may also have gotten their lives into such a fix that they will have no choice but to live single and celibate the rest of their lives. Such is not a reflection upon God\u2019s justice or mercy. Rather, such is a reflection of man\u2019s own stubborn disobedience and rejection of what God designed to be for man\u2019s good. Just as a person can sin and in so doing lose his\u00a0physical<\/strong>\u00a0life without God intervening to prevent the effect of the sin (e.g., rob a bank and be killed by the police), likewise a person can so sin in the marital realm that he or she forfeits\u00a0marital\u00a0<\/strong>life without God intervening.<\/p>

    Third, baptism is not biblical immersion if it is not\u00a0preceded<\/strong>\u00a0by repentance. We often forget this, so anxious are we to get people into the baptistery. Repentance is not simply being sorry. Godly sorrow precedes genuine repentance which is, in turn, followed by a reformation of life (2 Corinthians 7:9-10). Reformation of life entails the cessation of sinful practices and the severance of sinful relationships (Matthew 3:8; 1 Corinthians 6:11). Paul put it this way in Romans 6:2\u2014a person must not \u201clive any longer therein.\u201d<\/p>

    What did those who practiced sorcery do to show repentance in Acts 19:19? They burned their scrolls, showing that they were\u00a0ceasing<\/strong>\u00a0their former practices. Simply vowing to refrain from buying any further books, while insisting on keeping the books they already had, would manifest a lack of true repentance. If they held membership in a sorcery society, repentance would mean that they would sever that relationship. Simon\u2019s repentance and baptism in Acts 8 demanded the cessation of his former relationship with sorcery. What did repentance and baptism mean to the Corinthians? Consider the following chart:<\/p>

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    Whether the Corinthians had been practicing adultery, homosexuality, male prostitution, thievery, or swindling (1 Corinthians 6:9-10), repentance prior to baptism would mean that they would have ceased living in illicit sexual unions\u2014whether adulterous or homosexual. They would have ceased stealing and would have severed their relationship with ill-gotten gain. They would have given up any business arrangement that would call for swindling others. Repentance, by definition, would\u00a0demand<\/strong>\u00a0such. And those who continue to live in such relationships have not really repented.<\/p>

    One final point merits attention. Some attempt to justify adulterous unions by comparing the sin of adultery to murder. They say that there are some wrongs which cannot be righted. In the case of murder, a man may repent but he cannot raise his victim to life. They say that an unscriptural marriage fits in the same category.<\/p>

    This is a false analogy. In the first place, severing an illicit relationship is not an attempt to rectify past divorces or restore past marriages. Rather, it is what is demanded by repentance and God\u2019s laws of marriage. Second, the basic principle which does apply to both murder and adultery is that repentance demands that the individual cease committing murder and that he cease living in adultery (Colossians 3:7). Can a penitent murderer continue to murder? No. He will cease the relationship which he once had with the murderous life he once lived. Likewise, one who is living in a state of adultery will be lost if he or she dies in that state (Revelation 21:8). Just saying, \u201cI\u2019m sorry,\u201d will not change that state or change that relationship into a righteous one so that it may be continued. Nowhere has God ever dealt with sin in such a way. He always demands the cessation of the sinful practice or relationship\u00a0before<\/strong>\u00a0He abundantly pardons. John the Baptizer was not asking Herod to simply acknowledge his sin, say he was sorry and ask forgiveness, and then continue to live with Herodias. Herod had\u00a0married<\/strong>\u00a0her (Mark 6:17). What did repentance demand? That they break up their marriage. Why? Because, as John declared, \u201cIt [was] not lawful for [Herod] to have her\u201d (Mark 6:18)! There wasn\u2019t anything that Herod could merely\u00a0verbalize<\/strong>\u00a0that would change the status of the marital relationship. It had to be terminated.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

    The Consequences of Divorce and Remarriage by Dave Miller, Ph.D. Christians increasingly find themselves faced with the dilemma of dealing with individuals (usually non-Christian) who divorce and remarry any number of times for any number of reasons, and who come wishing to become part of the local church. The tendency is to permit the couple […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"parent":0,"menu_order":0,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","template":"","meta":{"om_disable_all_campaigns":false,"_monsterinsights_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"class_list":["post-620","page","type-page","status-publish","hentry","wpbf-post"],"aioseo_notices":[],"aioseo_head":"\n\t\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t\n\t\t